The one thing that’s so noticeable when I visit clients these days is how people tend to talk up the fact tha
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Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t for a moment think that many of the things that people are dealing with are not monumental but it strikes me that continually talking about them in this way is a form of self hypnosis that mesmerises us into thinking we’re not going to cope before we even begin.
Right now there’re a lot of self help gurus out there plying their 10 easy steps to success and riches. One can become very cynical especially in these difficult times. But the one thing that seems to make a lot of sense is the plain old fashioned self fulfilling prophecy that Thomas the Tank Engine has been using successfully since 1942 to haul the train up that hill! He was chanting “I think I can … “ long before “Yes We Can…”
In the last years since the invention of the MRI brain scan it’s become possible to actually map what goes on inside our heads in our neuro circuitry and what hormones get released when we think certain thoughts. All very fascinating, especially if you like to understand the science behind the art. But it all confirms what Thomas always knew, that self talk becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. On top of that what is now evident and can be measured, is the energy that is consumed by negative thinking and released by positive thinking.
So the one thing single thing that can make a huge difference to coping with change is thinking and talking positively! It sets your brain up for absorbing new information and it releases a whole lot of energy to help you up the learning curve because of course, new habits requiring new neural pathways in your brain don’t just happen. They require energy a lot like Thomas hauling the train up the hill. But the more you persist, the easier it becomes.
And here’s the thing, you’re talking to yourself anyway!! - about 50,000 messages per day - so you might as well tell yourself good things and make yourself feel good to boot.
Don’t just take my word for this, try some action experimentation. Agree in your group or just among a few of you to spend a week where you only talk positively about change and your own ability to cope, giving yourself and each other only positive messages. You can contract between yourselves to alert each other when you fall into negative speak. And then see whether it has an effect or not. Does it become easier to implement a change and overcome the obstacles and do you feel more energised. We’d love to get some feedback ……